Although we may share a common interest in spanking, there is much diversity within our group that makes the experience and appeal a little different for each of us. This is particularly evident when I receive customer feedback emails within hours of one another stating diametrically opposing views on what constitutes a good spanking scene! It’s also very apparent on spanking forums when members hoping to meet like-minded soul mates find that we aren’t all so like-minded beyond the general shared interest in spanking.
In looking at our differences, there is the obvious one being what role we take – are you a spanker, a spankee, a switch, or one that prefers to watch or read about spankings rather than engage in the act itself. There are preferences as far as wanting to see or engage in spankings that are M/F, F/F, F/M, or M/M. Role play or no scenario at all. Younger spankees or more mature ones. Spankers that are significantly older, about the same age, or younger than the spankee. Erotic, sensual spankings or disciplinary punishment. The list of possibilities could go on forever.
What we prefer and what constitutes our ideal scene or spanking experience is unique to the individual and part of what keeps things interesting. Find your niche, enjoy it, and know that while not everyone shares the same the exact same views, there is assuredly someone that does! No one opinion is right or wrong … but then again, that’s just my opinion. ;-)
In looking at our differences, there is the obvious one being what role we take – are you a spanker, a spankee, a switch, or one that prefers to watch or read about spankings rather than engage in the act itself. There are preferences as far as wanting to see or engage in spankings that are M/F, F/F, F/M, or M/M. Role play or no scenario at all. Younger spankees or more mature ones. Spankers that are significantly older, about the same age, or younger than the spankee. Erotic, sensual spankings or disciplinary punishment. The list of possibilities could go on forever.
What we prefer and what constitutes our ideal scene or spanking experience is unique to the individual and part of what keeps things interesting. Find your niche, enjoy it, and know that while not everyone shares the same the exact same views, there is assuredly someone that does! No one opinion is right or wrong … but then again, that’s just my opinion. ;-)
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I think it's especially important for spanking video producers to find a niche. For me, Punished Brats caters to the more humourous or light hearted fantasies. If I want to see dark scenarios (scenarii?) and severe punishments, there are other websites for that. Same thing for anal punishments and temp taking, full-on intercourse following the spanking, outside spankings, fully nude spankings (although there's one with Sarah Jane Ceylon on PB), bondage, etc.
I also understand that models are normal people who have their own limits. There are models that I'd love to see do M/f or more severe scenes but who don't for whatever personal reason.
One could discuss this for hours and hours -- the variations on the spanking theme seem endless! I have often wondered how, with the immense diversity, people manage to pair up, find the special ones whose particular desires within the realm somewhat mirror their own.
Because spanking isn't just about the physicality, but has a lot of emotional investment, people tend to feel very strongly about their preferences, have you noticed that? What is a thrill for one, can evoke abject horror in another. What gives one woman butterflies will make another woman's stomach turn. For example, I find it incredibly hot to have my hair gripped/pulled (not too hard!) during a spanking. But some women associate that action with abuse and wouldn't think of allowing it.
I try to monitor my stronger opinions when posting on public forums. But I must admit, I do express personal preferences and squicks on my own blog! :-D
Smallhanded makes a good point about video company niches. People come to depend on a certain type of content from the various companies. However, I do think one of the reasons why Shadow Lane has been so successful over the years, is they DON'T follow a particular niche, but cater to them all (or at least most of them). If one video comes out and you don't care for the content, all you have to do is wait for the next one, and chances are, it might be something more along your preferences. They cover the range of themes more than anyone else I can think of. -- Erica
Well said, Pixie, and I fully agree. The diversity is one of the things that draws me to spanking. I submit it is a positive for others, also.
I think the one thing we can all agree on is that Pixie is hotttttttt and we love her!
I agree with smallhanded-- do what works for you and find a niche, otherwise risk spreading yourself to thin and trying to capture such a wide audience that you end up alienating a lot of people.
On another topic... it is my opinion that we need to have some adventures soon so we can take fun pictures for our blogs. Haha. XO, Chloe
You're very right, Pixie.
Maybe that's the reason that I try to catch my fantasies in my drawings. The models often come from my imagination and are (in my eyes therefore) perfect.
The scene springs from my imagination too and so does the spanker. All a perfect match - in MY mind that is...
Others who watch my drawings will certainly NOT have the same feelings as I have. Liking or disliking or something in between.
I found it is absolutely impossible to catch the right thing for everyone.
The dream is the spanking couple. He who understands her needs in a LOVING environment. To me that's probably closest to perfection: the perfect match. As their love will give them all that is needed to explore , enhance and find the most ideal spankings...
Could write a million words about this as it is ALWAYS on my mind..
Thanks for your thoughts.. :-)
XXX, Funbun
The idea of spanking has made me hot before I really knew what hot was. While other boys were playing ball or pulling the wings off insects during recess I was happily gazing at my young female schoolmates on the playground and fantasizing about laying them over my lap for a quick little bottom-warming.
And when I'd overhear a girl telling her girlfriends about a spanking she'd received the night before at home I couldn't help but listen to her story with excitement and fascination. And while I felt badly for her, I couldn't ignore the strong physical reaction I was experiencing listening to her story.
These reactions I had to spanking at the time were strong and arousing, and my love of the red female bottom grew with the passing of time.
Now that I'm a retired Serial Spanker I find that the bare red glowing female bottom makes my blood boil more now than it ever did. And whenever I see such adorable girls like Pixie and Kailee draped over a spanker's knee getting their soft bare bottoms warmed, it makes me glad that I'm a man!...grroooowwwllzz :)
I have to say i agree with all comment i read and understand why they feel or say things they did say about thier opinion.
i had found i don't like video site where the female spankee is crying i usally feel bad cause i think to myself she did not really enjoy the spanking she got or while she was getting the spanking.while same time i know she may had wanted spanked like that.
Since i did not like what i seen somebody may have like that and it made them smile. i much rather see F/F spanking or the f/m spanking.
i feel the male enjoy getting spanked like the female enjoy getting spanked so everyone become a winner every way cause there all type of spanking to be enjoy just matter if the case happen be something you like.
tell truth i am still trying figure out where i am at and why i like what i do like about spankings.
Chloe,
Pixie is not only HOTTTTT! but she has great insights to this kink of ours and writes really well!
Mark
Each of us in the spanking world have our own unique physical as well as emotional needs. Therefore, it is silly to try to lump all spankos into one category. My own tastes have mellowed through the years from more intense to more playful spankings. Here is to each person finding the style that meets their own needs the best.
Bottoms Up,
Steve
My spanking interests mainly seem to center around age play. I'm more of a spankee & like to have a stern older woman play the parent/aunt or a very attractive female play the part with her hair pulled back & wearing a more motherly 50's like dress. (EX.June Cleaver from Leave it to Beaver) & me being taken by the ear to the bathroom for a good mouthsoaping & very hard hand & severe hairbrush spanking.
I really hate how some companies advertise very hard spankings & when you get the product the spankings are more like love taps. Lastly, schoolgirl scenes top the list along with age play. Way to go Punished Brats!!!
Tim
Excellant topic.
As Chloe said we can all agree that Pixie is Hot With a capital H as of course is Chloe.
In my humble opion as a 29yrold guy who has only within the last year or so had the courage to come out in any sort of way regards my interest in the spanking scene even if it is only online is this.
My personal preference is when watching spanking vids etc i prefer to see F/F more than M/F but in real life i would prefer to be spanked by a lady rather than vice versa.
Why i have this interest and conflicting veiws in fantasy and reality i do not know but having been fortunate to be able to chat to others and hear their veiws and opinions thanks to the internet i can put my hand on my heart and say.
We all have our different preferences but when all is said and done as long as both parties are consenting adults and enojy what they are doing then hell thats all that matters in my book.
Well said, Pixie. Best bet is to be who you are, and be open about your wants and desires (in appropriate circles, of course). Do that, and you'll find others that share the same interests. Nice post.
:)
Todd & Suzy
Smallhanded – Yes, we have found (or developed) our niche at PB. We film scenes we enjoy and are thrilled that there are so many people that like our style of content. Although we are always happy to receive members’ feedback and incorporate suggestions whenever possible and within the scope of our site, I’m beginning to realize that it truly isn’t possible to please everyone … and no, I’m not just saying that so that I don’t end up having to write lines on the subject another hundred times.
You’re also correct that we try to take the model’s tolerance and personal limits into consideration. We want them to have a good time which will hopefully mean they’ll return, be comfortable working with us, and in some cases that leads to the girl being willing to push her limits a little more the next time.
Erica – Absolutely! If only it were as easy as pairing up two people that are into spanking to guarantee a positive outcome. Like any relationship or even any interaction between two people, good communication is key. Add to the mix the need for chemistry, common interests, and complimentary attributes, and it’s no wonder the search for a partner is a challenging one.
Shadow Lane does offer a wide variety of videos to suit many different tastes. I have often referred people to their videos especially when people are in search of a DVD that incorporates real spanking and romantic acts as I think SL excels in this genre.
Mitch – That’s wonderful. There are so many nuances to spanking that the diversity can offer a lot to enjoy without it becoming stale.
Chloe – You are H-O-T hot yourself, Chickie! Especially in your new avatar. Hottie in a hot tub.
I like your opinion – both in doing what works for us … and that we are overdue for a good adventure or two. Email me when you get back home and we’ll plot … errr scheme … errr make nice plans.
Funbun – Spanking fantasies are something so personal and particular to the individual and in many cases, very private. I’m guessing that most of us have imagined our ideal spanking scenario, but you are very lucky that you have the talent to make that image in your mind into a drawing. And we are very lucky that you are willing to share those drawings will all of us.
The Serial Spanker – You are far from alone in being into spanking from an early age. Although not everyone discovers their interest in spanking as a child, I’m sure many can relate to your experiences as I do.
Mike – Trying to figure out why spanking appeals isn’t an easy task. It sounds like you have a good start with knowing what aspects of spanking you like and dislike.
Mark – You are making me blush!!
Steve – Well said, Steve. And good point that our tastes change over time. Mine have as well.
Tim – Wonderful. I’m glad that we offer scenarios you like so much. I hope you receive the style of discipline from that strict mom/aunt figure just as often as you need it.
John – Yes, thank goodness for the internet. Without it, I think many of us would still think we were the only ones on earth that have a fascination with spanking. And you’re right, it is also good to put aside the endless questions of “why” sometimes and simply enjoy.
Todd & Suzy - Thank you. It takes at least one person being open about how they feel for others to come together and say, "hey, me too".
Pixie==
"Everybody's different" is an old theme of mine. This is why it's important to talk, negotiate, and work things out before you start playing with someone. Something you love to incorporate in a scene may well be something they hate. You have to find the common ground that will mean everybody has a good time and gets what they want.
"Spanking" is the broad canvas on which we all paint--but we all bring our own unique perspective, vision, nuances and colors to the palette....
Pinks and reds, mostly...:-)
Dr. Ken
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