The phrase "we need to have a little talk" is enough to send shivers down my spine. Afterall, it seems that these chats often result in a hot bottom. But what about the actual discussion portion of these talks? Which do you prefer? A long lecture and explanation of why a particular behavior is deserving of discipline, or fewer words in favor of letting the hand (hairbrush, belt, paddle, etc.) do the talking? And what about the timing in relation to the spanking? When is a spankee the most receptive to what is being said?
For me, it's hard to focus on much of anything but the impending doom for my bottom 
beforehand. I'm distracted by my heart pounding and thoughts of "this can't be happening". And once reality hits that there's no way of weaseling out of it, I just want to hurry up and get it over with. Waiting patiently in such situations is not my strongsuit. Thankfully a few bratty remarks tend to move things along nicely.
beforehand. I'm distracted by my heart pounding and thoughts of "this can't be happening". And once reality hits that there's no way of weaseling out of it, I just want to hurry up and get it over with. Waiting patiently in such situations is not my strongsuit. Thankfully a few bratty remarks tend to move things along nicely.I find it even harder though to concentrate on what is being said while the spanking is taking place. Pain is distracting as is the embarrassment of being bottom up. Answering questions or holding a conversation at this point is inifinitely more difficult.
So that leaves the option of a post-spanking discussion. Red bottomed and remorseful, I tend to hear what's being said loud and clear. A warm hug, a bit of comforting, and I'm all ears.
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It cuts both ways. The phrase "We have to talk" is the worst phrase in the English language for ANYONE. :-(
Thanks for another great post sweetie (HUGS)
The spanking scene does seem to have a lot of "hot button" phrases (or maybe "hot bottom" phrases would be more accurate)--those words that send the shivers down your spine and stir up the butterflies in your stomach. I know one woman who will start mentally and emotionally squirming just from my referring to her as "young lady". She knows what those words generally lead up to!
It may be hard to concentrate on what's being said before or during a spanking, but if I'm going to scold or lecture, I prefer all three--before, during, and after.
The repetition--along with a stinging bottom--should help the lesson to sink in, even if there are moments when she's having trouble concentrating on what's being said!
Dr. Ken
Its interesting the code words used to convey an upcoming spanking event. The terms "discussion," "chat," or even "plan out our day" would seem innocuous to most outside observers, written in an e-mail or articulated in public, but from someone in a spanking relationship, they often mean that communication will shift from the ears/brain to the upended, bared bottom.
You are very brave, Pixie. I don't know many people who when faced with impending discipline will forego procrastinating and instead institute your catalyst-----"Waiting patiently in such situations is not my strongsuit. Thankfully a few bratty remarks tend to move things along nicely."
It would seem to me that such behavior would elevate your rump roast from say 250 degrees for 5 minutes to 400 degrees for 10 and take you from pink to deeper red, and if truly bratty, perhaps ignite the sprinkler system to quell the fire, but perhaps you have a teflon or kevlar wrapped bionic bottom which insulates you from heat rising.
Brad D.
Pixie,
"We need to have a little talk" is usually followed by the phrase "Assume the Position!". I can see how a spankee would like to hurry up and get things over with. However, the sight of a beautiful female bottom awaiting chastisement may cause a spanker to want to drag out the proceedings!!
Bottoms Up,
Steve
I like the talking to be throughout, though it doesn't need to be a long lecture beforehand. Some talking is usually needed before in order to further establish why a punishment is taking place, and that it's a fair and well-considered consequence. Some scolding during can be useful, depending on the technique - not needed if the paddling is right to-the-point and no interruption, or good counterpoint to a more protracted lesson. I agree that afterwards is the best time for hugs and a calm, supportive conversation about preventing the problem from happening again, and why there needed to be a spanking.
Thank you for sharing your views on this, Pixie.
Dana
To me, long lectures beforehand seem to be verging on the sadistic. Neither prevarication on the part of the spankee nor procrastination on the part of the spanker by way of lecture is going to lessen the punishment, and only adds to the punishment because of the added anticipation. I can remember schooldays when those who knoew they wered in for a caning would always prefer to get on with it and all but the caners, whether teachers or prefects, who had a sadistic streak would get on with it and deliver the punishment letting it "speak for itself". I can remember boys geared up for a punishment in the evening, not called then and waiting all night dreading the morning!
No - "time for a little talk" is surely NOT time for punishment.
Great points, personally I like the parts of your movies where the young lady is finding it: hard to focus on much of anything but the impending doom for my bottom beforehand. I'm distracted by my heart pounding and thoughts of "this can't be happening"
The hottest part of the movies could be seeing a young woman get flustered and experience the
embarrassment of being bottom up
and pants down.
007 - Thank you. That phrase can have several different potential outcomes, all of which seem to provoke anxiety.
Dr. Ken - Hehehe. I really giggled at the "hot bottom" phrases. Like your friend, my bottom often knows what's coming and will start to tingle with anticipation and my hands will sometimes automatically fly back to protect my cheeks before the word spank is even mentioned.
Brad - We do seem to have a lot of code words. Isn't it funny when you hear one then spoken in a vanilla setting?
Yes, speeding things along by upping the brat factor does tend to result in a firmer spanking, but sometimes it seems the lesser of the two evils! :)
Steve - It would be just my luck to be about to spanked by someone that enjoys watching me squirm and wring my hand as I anxiously await my fate. Can you imagine? "Just spank me!!!" "No, now we're going to wait a little longer ..." Arggghhh.
Dana - I absolutely agree that it is necessary to be told why the spanking is necessary, even if punishment immediately follows the act. Total silence I think is even scarier and more confusing.
Winchester - Waiting all night must have been dreadful!! I wouldn't be able to sleep a wink knowing what was to come in the morning. The wait magnifies the punishment tenfold.
Anonymous - The embarrassment factor is a big part of the experience. Sometimes I'll even have trouble watching another girl in a clip and will cover my eyes as I empathize with her discomfort.
We don't do serious punishments, but we do quite a bit of role-playing, especially when she wants cleansing tension relief - typically on Friday evenings after a week from hell at work. So she tells me about something that she pretends to have done was "naughty" if she wants a preliminary warm-up, or about something that either she or I would describe as "bad" or "very bad," either to go on beyond the warm-up or to jump into the serious swatting "cold-turkey."
I pick up on whatever she tells me, ad-libbing a scolding or lecture occasionally, but usually speaking in soft, affectionate terms of how let-down I feel, how sad, how disappointed, &c. I then segue slowly, softly into a description of what I'm going to do, in order to get her imagination going and her adrenalin (and, ideally, other juices) flowing. After drawing that out as long as I can without her losing memontum, I do the ritual positioning, with a lot of gentle encouragement ("Atta-girl," "Good,good!" &c). The position can be over the lap, bent over with hands on knees and feet apart and looking forward and up to poke the butt up into the air, or grabbing ankles and looking straight ahead if she needs the complete emotional catharsis of five of my very best. Finally before I deliver the first swat, I explain how the initial bite of the light but hard 22 x 4 x 0.5 paddle (my favorite implement) will be followed by numbness, then a wave of searing pain that will be heightened by each successive swat. As she is in position, thinking about what I've just told her, I lightly rub and pat the wood against the target area several times. Without warning that it's coming I suddenly draw back and swing, with a snap of the wrist. The initial shock is usually so great as to induce total silence, unmoving rigidity, saucer eyes, and a mouth that drops open in silent shock. She often remains silent for the five seconds or so that I give the swat to soak in, but then a moan that starts from deep within the chest turns into a pained yowl just in time to be choked off into an "UGH!" by the second swat. Things proceed this was through the fifth and final swat, by which time she's past crying and is breathing raggedly without making any vocal noises. The essence of her pleasure, even more than mine, is the spinning out of each of the steps, of which "the talk" is only the first but the best way to give her the drawn-out, heady mixture of sensuous anticipation and dread. The resultant slow, continuous building of the adrenalin followed by the huge endorphin release during the spanking will keep her coming back for more over and over.
Anon VII
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